Sunday, February 17, 2008

T minus 7 weeks

My pregnancy travels are done! Husband and I hit up the great state of Arizona this weekend for a law conference and shoot, I want to embrace in a slightly awkward, bit too tight and enthusiastic way whoever planned it because: whoa. I had the great privilege of seeing my girl crush (hell, every she-lawyer's girl crush) Sandra Day O'Connor in the flesh. And despite her schoolmarm voice, I loved every minute of her presentation, and we also got to see a number of other girl crushes I have, who will remain nameless so no one googling them will discover the fascination I have with them, but let's just say they're a big deal and I heart them. We also got to meet a bunch of people who knew husband and/or husband's fam (surprise, surprise) and visit one of my favorite pairs of senior citizens from the mish. Plus I got 48+ hours of straight up quality time with husband which was an outstanding treat. Basically, two thumbs up, and that's even including staying in a medium-gross hotel and waddling around while everyone thought husband was the lawyer and I was the preg sidekick. Ha!

In other news, will you guide me? Do you ever keep doing things that are hard for you just because part of you worries that if you don't, you'll become a shut-in who knits sockettes for her pets while doing large-print wordsearches on a crooked, rusty TV tray, grumbling about the price of prescription drugs while wearing only an oversized sheet with greasy mustard stains on it? That's me and Relief Society right now. I'm convinced if I keep trying I'll eventually stop dreading it and start going bc I like it. I've been gone for a couple weeks, but apparently there is a "recipe exchange" this week at some lady's house, where you bring something you made and 20 copies of the recipe, blahblahblah. Problem: I don't make anything and I hate that sort of thing. But, I don't want to become creepy shut-in and keep thinking if I pull it together, one day I will stop wishing I hadn't gone and start thinking hey, I'm getting the hang of this. Good grief, I am 25 years old and going to have a kid, does that mean it's time to make mom friends? So, do I go, just make some PBJs and act natural? Do I buy something, pretend I made it, go and make polite conversation and risk coming home & pounding my head into the wall? Do I grow a pair, quit complaining and just drop out? Do I stay home and finish season 2 of Lost?? Should I finish up that damn wordsearch and call it good? Help.

12 comments:

tickiworld said...

Um, I never go to Relief Society activities. Ever. Well, that's not true, sometimes I feel really guilty, so I go, but then about 10 minutes into it I remember that I'd rather shove a pen in my eye and casually bolt out the door. And a recipe exchange? Come on. Don't do it, Kathleen, don't do it. The day I want to be friends with women who have nothing better to do than copy recipes out of damn Betty Crocker books is the day I shut myself in and overdose on cottage cheese.

Nikki said...

Tag! You're it for the Crazy 8s meme.

J said...

I like recipe exchanges and one day you will too. Just go already and befriend whoever looks as out of place as you feel.

Anna said...

No dropping out! ;) But heavens, you dont have to go if you dont want to! Watch Lost. No guilt feeling needed. But I dont think you should rule out all activities and all women who might enjoy those. I think that some women who like to exchange recipes may not all be molly mormon boring mommas...
ps- who did you see in AZ from the mission?

gurrbonzo said...

Anna, I saw the Johnstons! I think you overlapped with them a tiny bit and oh how I love them.

Point of clarification: I am not anti-recipe. It's not the recipe thing as much as it is how awkward things are for me at enrichment. I would really like to meet some new RS buddies but it has NOT gone well thus far, so I am just trying to nudge myself along. I shall believe!

Supalinds said...

I think you should snuggled your pregnant butt on the couch and watch Lost. Just thinking about cooking something and then printing off the recipe 20 times, makes me want to bang my head against my desk, over and over again. Even that would be more enjoyable But ya know what, follow your heart...make good choices :)

Supalinds said...

I meant snuggle not snuggled...I guess by using the past tense form I am showing you just how much you should do it. Don't let the past tense turn into not happening at all.

erin g said...

i don't think you have to go to every relief society activity. i thought that they had changed things up to have these mini-enrichments so that you could go to what you're interested in, and not have to go to things you're not into. i go to the book clubs; i don't go to the recipe exchanges.

plus, you are so pregnant that you can do whatever you want.

plus, it's not like this is something that someone spent a long time planning and that you should feel guilty about skipping out on. it's more of a get together.

if you need more excuses, let me know, i always have lots.

i want to know who your other girl crushes are. plus, did you get to see my boss?

Anonymous said...

Just do what I do and go without food and a recipe and eat everyone elses food.

Nathaniel and Dorothy said...

I vote grow a pair, then stay home and watch lost.

Anonymous said...

Umm...this is a late comment, I know, but I get on the internet about once a week and usually I do the email and research thing. So I like recipes, a lot. I kinda read recipe books. I'm a total nerd and won't deny it. But, I am the RS pres in my singles ward and even with that I went to me first enrichment in two years (work at night was my excuse) and I'll be honest, I left to do some "visiting teaching stuff" I came back for the treats though. It can be fun, but definitely need to be in the mood, you know? D

Mrs. Clark said...

I have been attending RS since I was a non-member freshman at BYU 30-plus years ago. I often don't get that much out of "enrichment", and I would not go to a recipe exchange. I did a cookie exchange once, and when my husband saw the sorry excuses I brought home in exchange for my own cookies, he hit the roof. "You exchanged your good cookies for THESE?" However, at some point there will be something you will enjoy. Frankly, I am glad we only have quarterly enrichment things now. There are things sometimes that are more important (hanging with my husband, doing school stuff with kids). It will, however, take a while to integrate the mommy persona into your self-image. Same goes for RS stuff.